Day before yesterday, suhail bhai who happens to be my cousin, told me that the tailor who i gave my suit for stitching, Naveed is his name, his new born baby died. He was telling me he was the first baby and all i was kind of shocked because he's a really young young guy, and we've been his clients for 3 4 years and virtually the entire family so he knows us all.
Anyways, the ultimately selfish question which i was ashamed of asking at first, sprung up
"matlb suit time pe nae milay ga?"
Anyways it didn't really matter if the suit was delayed a bit, because i only have to wear it to Maryam's wedding, which is 2 weeks after eid inshaAllah. What shocked me was the fact that Naveed was this always smiling person, very well dressed and all, and i couldn't imagine this happening to him.
Later that night, at about 11 30 the bell rang. I asked who it was and i heard "NAVEED" i was shocked!
Checking my memory to recognise his voice to see if he really was the same naveed i opened the door and he was standing infront of his bike, holding a coat. After getting over the initial shock I thought he had brought the preliminary size, that they usually do to check if the coat fits. But he was like "Sir sil gya hai"
i was shocked again, because the suit wasn't even due anyways! Even if the death hadn't taken place!
Anyways, i took him inside and he asked me to try it on. When he was holding the coat and i was trying it on, he was still smiling, but faintly. All the while i wondered how difficult would it be for this man to come here, to do something for my happiness when he knew his happiness was nowhere around him. Death of your first child, that you've helped your wife carry for nine whole months, who you've dreamt of naming, raising and owning, and one day seeing him grow up! I found out it was a baby boy.
I wanted to talk to him about it, but i really couldn't bring myself to it no matter how hard i tried.
When papa came home five minutes later, i heard him talking to naveed about it.
I tried to think of all the reasons for naveed bringing me my suit so soon, despite the death of his son. Professionalism, concern for business, Regard for our family and blah blah blah blah, but i rejected every reason myself, because knew it was only his patience, his faith that kept him going, that told him that even such disastrous events happen for a predestined reason, and once they happen, you cant do anything about it.
Maybe he's that strong, or maybe i'm wrong.
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some people have patience in them and thats whats required in times like these, hes a brave guy. i feel so ashamed for the lack of mine..
That day a strange question occured to me. What hurts more, the feeling that you couldn't spend a little time with the child you you were so waiting for or the feeling when parents lose a grown up child, that you spent all your life and dedicated every moment to that child's life, to raise him/her and now he/she's gone! Maybe its naive of me to even ask something like that.
wht he is goin through is sumthin only he n his wife can explain and we can only imagine ... it is a horrible experience but all i can say is maybe the tailor has such a strong faith and he realises tht whteva has happened is wht God intended but still losin a child to which u attach so many hopes and dreams a, ambitions to lose it is perhaps the most unfortunate things that can happen to anyone.perhaps he is to big a man and to strong that he got on with it or he is so numb with pain that he doesnt feel any pain ..i am gettin soo depressed writin.
@nando
yeah its so strengthening to see people who move on from such great disasters, takes a mountain of faith and emotional strength. I pray k Allah un dono ko sabr day. But yeah we can very well imagine how big a pain that is, but what we should realise is that the pain is just a test from God, just to see man's reaction and it cannot be undone. The only successful way out is picking yourself up, telling yourself okay i'm strong, such setbacks shouldnot paralyse me, and start walking with all the strength you have. It astonishes me sometimes how emotionally strong can humans be.
he is to young and you ppl are his clients for thirty four years? :O
samajh ni aai
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dignity is in derinking of your sorrows
i totally agree with amna here. either too numb or too strong.
@ mha
loss is a loss, big or small, its always painful. losing a child yet to be born hurts more. the hopes, the dreams, joy, happiness and everything yet to be felt in real, when the child was to come but never comes is probably the biggest loss. but i am no one to even say that the other lose is nothing...
@d4duffer
perhaps the tailor's father used to deal with mha's family before the tailor started work...
Our faith and determination are tested in different ways and we all have our own struggles to deal with. For some, this test of faith is simple, for others not so much but at the end, we must maintain our faith in Allah for He is the All-knowing. I know it is easier said than done. Imagine an overcastted sky, where for a while, you can appreciate the amiability of the sun and suddenly, that connection between you and the sun is gone due to cloudy conditions. That does not mean that the sun is gone from your life but it has simply been buried or shall I say, masked by the worldly sufferings and pain. We must always yearn for that sunlight that will sustain our journey through the shadowy unsettled days.
And may Allah (SWT) gives us the strength and courage to maintain our faith and to pass this worldly test and of the hereafter. Ameen!
@duffer
i meant 3 or 4 years!!! notice the space between the numbers!
not 34 years obviously
hmm.. no words... my last few days have been full of such shocks...
we as humans r so helpless when it comes to our emotions, guilt, greed... and feelings... !!!
May Allah help him... and you!
i dun have anything to say on the post coz this is sth for which words, no matter how many, are never enough...sometimes even feelings fall short. All I can say is that God give him and his wife patience and strength and lots of healthy babies very soon...InshAllah...
and about the question u were talking abt...i think theres no such difference btw the two...a baby that has not yet been born is still alive in his/her mother's womb. The parents still have spent a certain period of their life with their child even if its just for the nine months...the hopes, the aspirations, the beliefs everything is the same for both a grown up child and an unborn one...
this brought back painful recent memories .. be it born or be it unborn the pain stays ..no matter how strong u r ...
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